A Woman and Femininity- Two different things

There is nothing demeaning about being feminine, it is the hallmark of being a lady. Any woman CAN be a lady. It's mostly in your mind and heart. The feminist movement has fueled everything from murderous abortions to godless homosexuality. Feminism is rebellion against God!

Being a woman and being feminine are two different things. A woman is a girl who has reached a certain age. A feminine woman is a girl who has finally matured as an adult. We consider a girl to have reached womanhood when she begins her menstrual cycle. That could occur as early as pre-teen to make her ready for child bearing. But that does not mean she has reached full maturity as a person who is ready to be a wife or mother.

Some women never reach the level of maturity that is expected of them as functioning adults. They may be physically mature but have not grown up mentally, socially or spiritually. Their relationships and life ambitions are shallow and often hostile. Their interpretation of "femininity" is most often focused on beauty and social graces rather than on the qualities of mind, heart and soul. A woman who struggles with her true femininity does not make a good prospect for marriage. She is self centered, self serving and defensive. She is constantly trying to prove herself, goes to exaggerated extremes to look and act her best while neglecting her mind, her attitudes and her womanly graces.

The problem of growing into true feminine maturity is difficult and hindered for most girls. Parents and society are more concerned with looks and popularity of females than with character and morals. The emphasis of training for young girls is on clothes, makeup and hairdo's and there is nothing wrong with looking your best. But the message to young girls is that their greatest quality is their "sexuality". Personality and disposition are secondary, and most often avoided while the emphasis remains on looks, outward appearances.

Females are portrayed as "sex objects" in advertising, entertainment and in the minds of immature boys and men. Sexual abuse is the result of seeing a woman as nothing more than an object of pleasure rather than as a God created person to be respected.Femininity and sexuality are opposites. A woman who portrays herself as a sex object by the way she dresses and acts is far from being feminine.

Femininity expresses the deeper things of life like being sensitive to the needs of others, of knowing how to share genuine love, to be self-giving and understanding. A truly feminine woman wants to be needed, to be understood, to be respected and to be treated as a worthwhile human being.

A feminine woman is not threatened by the different roles of men and women. She is not trying to be "equal" to the male in the sense that she must perform as he does. She recognizes the God-given differences, that neither man nor woman is inferior but that both have a distinct calling and purpose.

Women- What’s wrong with some of us?

Open up any woman’s magazine, and you’ll see advertisements that unabashedly appeal to self-entitlement. Everything from hand soap to resort vacations is peddled with tag lines such as, “Take time for yourself,” “You deserve it,” and “It’s all about you.” Don't get me wrong, we all need a little pampering but let's face it, alot of women are selfish and are only looking out for themselves.

I see far too much of that as I look around today's world. Modern women demand all the privileges traditionally afforded us during years of the past, but also want the new freedoms of a “liberated” era. When women were placed on a pedestal they were also protected, cherished, and honored. Doors were held for them and rough language was restrained in their presence as befitted their delicate sensibilities. We don't seem to understand that those privileges were granted in recognition of a woman's special role in society.

I think the women's lib movement got it all wrong. They are making women into miniature cardboard cutouts of men instead of freeing women to be ourselves. Unfortunately, this would include letting us make choices that include staying home with our children, or even subliminating what we want at times to the needs of our loved ones, because that is what women do. It would include giving women permission to be...women, in all the variations from tomboys who never wear makeup to girly-girls who don't feel dressed without fake eyelashes, dangly earrings, and nails. There is a harshness, a stridency that grates on the nerves. They want to have their cake and eat it too!

Feminism starts in the mind. Many women feel 'ugly', so they don't even try to be feminine. Other women have been ridiculed for trying to be feminine and are afraid of being labeled. The motivation to dress and act feminine for a woman should radiate from a heart that loves God and wants to please God. If we only live right because some religion told us to, then we will be miserable. A woman should dress modestly to please God.

We were all created to PLEASE GOD. Most people strive only to please themselves. A feminine woman is a blessing to all around her especially her husband. A woman doesn't have to be ‘thin’ to be feminine, weight, height, skin and eye colour have nothing to with femininity. Femininity is a state of mind more than anything else. A feminine woman doesn't mind a man holding the door open for her, she welcomes it. A feminine woman doesn't even try to lift something bulky or heavy, she asks a strong man to lift it. A feminine woman makes a man feel like a real man because she requires his masculinity, strength, and courage. A feminist on the other hand doesn't need anything from a man, she has the mental disposition of a man already. She is a mental homosexual at a minimum. She thinks like a man. This is why so many women wear men's clothing and business suits.

Why is it so hard for women to embrace the role and purpose given to us by God? Why is femininity looked down upon? Why is the woman with a soft and gentle spirit seen as a weak subservient? Mention the word children and they break out in hives. There is a big difference between being a woman and being feminine.

Let’s dig deeper and see what we can come up with.