Imagine our conversation if I told you I wanted all the things you were capable of giving me, but I didn't want you.
"I want your support. Life is tough and I need to know someone is always on my side. I want your understanding. Mistakes happen. I need someone who won't look down on me every time I fall. I want your help. Some things are just too difficult to do on my own. I want your love so I will always feel loved. I want your protection so I will always feel safe. But... I don't want you."
"I don't want to associate myself with you in public. If people don't like you, they won't like me. I don't want you to show me the way down any paths. I go where I want to go. I don't want you pricking my conscious with definitions of right and wrong. I do what I want to do. I don't want you revealing any plans you have for me. I have plans of my own. I don't want you calling on me when there's work to be done. I'm a busy person. I don't want you interrupting my life."
What kind of a response do you think those 'wants' and 'don't wants' would invoke?
Sure? No problem? I'm in? What can I do for you first?
It's difficult to imagine anyone expecting so much, and so unwilling to give anything in return.
How many of us are having that same conversation...